The REAL Reason Why We crave alone time…

To all my beautiful introverted, sensitive, empathic souls out there, this one is for you.

I GET IT! Trust me I get it, when you say I need space. I need some me time. I need to recharge my batteries. I get it. As an introvert, extremely sensitive, empath, intuitive water sign myself, I FUCKING GET IT.

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Going out then needing a day to recharge, making sure we plan our week ahead where we get a break from people in between meet ups! Making sure we have at least a WHOLE day each week to ourselves to just fucking rest and absorb the week!

But is this really how we going to live…?

Or am I the only one who does this & feels this way….

Or have you simply just accepted your nature & happy with it…

Yet you still crave human connection & intimacy from now and then….

You love your alone time but sometimes you envy those who manage to go out there and socialize regularly…

If you agree with the statements above & you feel the same way I do and you sometimes, just sometimes you wonder WHY?? & whether that can change keep on reading because I discovered there is a bigger reason behind wanting to be alone, sometimes.

Okay before I say this, just keep an open mind to what I am about to say.

What if I told you your problem is not all you nature fault.

It is not your introverted personality.

Not your sensitivity.

Not because you are an empath. Something too many people use as an excuse these days…

It’s you simply being inauthentic.

Think about it, when you need alone time, you probably don’t avoid your pet, plants or food. You don’t tell your cat or dog I need alone time, so why would you avoid humans but not another living thing.

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& don’t get me wrong I am totally for taking time to myself, I LOVE IT, I love spending alone time I love doing things alone and taking breaks from human every now and then but I had to be honest with myself and explore this side. Perhaps we’ve missed something and this is why I am writing about this today as I had realization and I wanted to share it with you in hopes it breaks you free too. 🙂

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What if I told you maybe you have missed something out, maybe people drain you because you gave you power away.

People drain you because you can not be yourself.

People drain you because you have no boundaries.

That’s it! BOUNDARIES.

We crave human connection and intimacy yet, those same people seem to suck the energy out of us.

Especially those we love, our friends and families. Have you thought about it? Have you asked yourself why? it’s because those we love are the hardest for us to say NO to.

We think we will be hurting them but in reality we are only hurting ourselves. We give give give & it seems they only take take take….

It’s not them, it’s us. SOMETIMES. 😉

We have to be honest and ask ourselves, do people drain us because we have simply not set our boundaries? Which is us simply not being authentic – not being our true selves.

Do we choose to avoid certain people and certain conversations because we can’t be us? We fear being judged? Being different from others?

Initially when I heard this I rejected it. I thought, if there is anyone here who is real it’s me! If there is anything I have mastered is being real and cutting the fake.

But then it hit me, TEAL SWAN is a genius & I am inauthentic!

I am aware this is not always the case all the time, we introverts sensitive soul like our alone time every now and then, but sometimes we really are just not ourselves & we need to acknowledge that.

So here what I want you to do:

  • Identify your boundaries = what can you tolerate and not tolerate
  • Practice being authentic = learn to say no, learn to love who you are and be that person 24/7

For instance, I DO NOT LIKE CLUBBING, I don’t like the environment. I ACTUALLY DESPITE THE PLACE & THE ENERGY. & I’ve finally accepted being judged for being that ‘weird’ 20 something female…

So whenever someone asks me = my answer is always NO. I don’t even think about it anymore.

I know me, I know what I like and dislike and I am not afraid to show it.

& let me tell you one thing about doing this. You will save your time, your energy, you will save have toxic unhealthy relationships, you will find peace in your heart & slowly you will realize you have freedom. 🙂

I will leave it here, I hope you enjoyed this post & got something out of it.

Lots of love,

Arwa X

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One Comment Add yours

  1. lauragoss8 says:

    Something to definitely think about thank you… X x x

    Liked by 1 person

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